Crappiness

"...Rasa hormat adalah asas penting menjalin hubungan cinta yang suci sesuai dengan aturan Allah swt. Hormat kepada perintah Allah, ajaran Rasul serta hormat ke atas hak dan maruah di antara pasangan amat dititik beratkan ke arah satu hubungan yang berkekalan.

Seorang lelaki yang jujur terhadap cinta dan kasih sayang yang terjalin terhadap seorang wanita tidak sewenang-wenangnya menyentuh tangan wanita atau memegang erat tubuhnya. Wanita bukannya objek yang boleh diperalatkan.

Jika ini terjadi, seorang wanita perlu berfikir, apakah pasangan seperti ini mampu melindungi dan menjaga maruahnya apabila berkahwin nanti?

Jika hari ini haknya tergadai kerana seorang yang dinamakan kekasih, apa kesudahan yang bakal berlaku satu hari nanti?..."

I find this very true. I always put this in my mind whenever I am on a relationship. Surprisingly, my brother had advised the same thing to me before.

“Lelaki yang baik tak akan pegang ko. Kalau dier pegang tu maknenyer dia nak ambik kesempatan kat ko jek. Dia tak hormat kau sebagai seorang perempuan pun. Buang dia jauh2. Jangan fikir pun pasal sayang. Kata2 lelaki tu ko buat macam racun jek”

That was what my brother advised me when I first experienced this situation before. I believe you guys understand what I mean. I felt so sinful and I cried when that happened to me before although it was somewhat minor. To me touching between a lass and a lad is already considered bestowing one’s pride and thus disrespecting a lady for who she is. From there, I learnt a very fruitful lesson and I always remind myself to not trust a guy too much.

My parents brought us siblings to Al-Khair Mosque for the ceramah on seks. The speaker is none other than Encik Yusof Ismail, pakar motivasi from Ain Society. It wasn’t that boring after all. The content and delivery was superb. It was very entertaining with the jokes and all.

He mentioned that guys who are single (youths etc.) only think of 3 things.

1) Sports aka fun

2) Foods

3) Sex

Then he asked the guys who are present whether what he says is true. Everyone started laughing. When I take my younger brother as an example, I thought it all make sense. He likes to have fun; always going out with friends etc. He has this habit of shouting “dah masak ke belum? Adik lapar!!” whenever he reached home from school. Anyway, he complained of hunger every hour. So I don’t know what kind of stomach he has. As for the third point on sex, I treat flirting with girls as having unglam sex. Haha!

Guys who are married also think of 3 things

1) Foods

2) Sex

3) Sleep

That is true for a man like my father. Haha! Oh ya. He said that guys have very high ego and I know the moment he said that, my younger brother will go “I DUN AGREE!!”. Haha! Cos he once got the same phrase from a girl whom he loved so much and he die-die will say no he is not like that. Ok whatever adik. Pak usop says “girls listen here. Guys who once had sex or had touched you before have extremely high ego. Whenever he had done all the explicit things, he will feel proud about it and tell like almost the whole world he had done this with so and so before. So who get the embarrassment? Guys or girls? Jangan termakan dengan janji-janji manis seorang lelaki. They are just destroying you. When they got what they want, they will leave you.

I read this booklet which they gave to my parents. In the booklet, there is a section on kisah benar where remaja share their story on seks. And there is this guy who tergila-gila kan sex until he says he die die must have sex everyday. He says he just used ‘magic’ words and when the lady agree to have sex he know what to do. I mean since he is so experienced he describe about the memancut part and the melepaskan lah nak terkeluar lah. Since none of the girls has reported being pregnant, he continued his cruel activity involving his friends etc. and worst still he is so proud that he can has sex without getting the girl into much trouble. He never wear condom because according to him wearing condom kill his syiok-ness. So you imagine la how professional he is when it comes to sex. But when asked whether he want to repent, he says not at the moment. Maybe in 6 years time when he thinks of settling down. Even if that is so, he will find a girl who is virgin. ----_____----.. tapi Allah telah berfirman di surah an-nur ayat 26, perempuan-perempuan yang jahat adalah untuk lelaki-lelaki yang jahat, dan lelaki-lelaki yang jahat untuk perempuan-perempuan yang jahat; dan (sebaliknya) perempuan-perempuan yang baik untik lelaki-lelaki yang baik, dan lelaki yang baik untuk perempuan-perempuan yang baik. Tetapi ingat kita tidak boleh label seseorang itu jahat atau baik. Hanya Allah sahaja yang boleh berbuat demikian. Yang penting, apabila kita telah membuat satu kesalahan atau kesilapan, jangan berlengah-lengah lagi. Mintak pengampunan dariNya dan berjanji tidak akan mengulangi kesilapan itu lagi.

Pak usop ckp lelaki pekak! Haha! I agree whole-heartedly to what he says. He mentioned awak try la bobal dengan lelaki tgk dia akan layan awk tak. Dia main ahh tapi sebenarnya dia tak dengar. Kene pekik kat depan dia, jerk badan dia sikit ke baru dier dengar apa awk ckp. Kalau tak bobal la awk sendiri. Ni disebabkan hormone si lelaki yang unbalanced and cause one side of their ear drum to be temporary blocked or closed? And thus resulting to slight deafness.

Aku asyik target lelaki jek. Haha! Pak usop tak bnyk ckp sangat sal perempuan except that he says “anak perempuan dengar dengan perasaan”. Fhm2 je la mak2 zaman skrg ni sikit2 beleter da tu main lepas jek kata2 yg tak sepatutnyer dia ckp like “kau pilih. Kau sayangkan lelaki tu ke kau sayangkan mak. Kalau kau sayangkan lelaki tu kau ikut lelaki tu and jangan balik rumah.” And girl being a girl will follow what her mom said. Dia akan ikut lelaki tu and tak akan balik rumah.

My parents plak ader sikit terbalik. Kalau tengok dalam drama2 kalau anak lari dari rumah, mak akan risau and nak anak tu balik. Bila anak balik dia sambut dengan gembira, rindu and blah3. My parents plak dia ckp klu kita lari rumah dia akan tunggu dengan rotan kat depan pintu. Kalau kita balik jek dia akan rembat kita. Dalam hati aku ni maknanyer mak aku tak sayang aku. Kalau dia rembat maknenya dia nak kita keluar rumah jangan balik lagi. Even Pak Usop ckp kadang2 kita mak bpk ni tak perasan/sedar kelakuan kita sebenarnya encourage anak untuk keluar dari rumah. So mak bpk be careful with what you say and I go “DGR TU IBU??!!” and she jelling at me (her trademark). -_-

I like going to this kind of talk because it helps me to prepare for my motherhood days but it doesn’t really help my parents because they will still do what they like especially their trademark pekik and beleter. Wohoo! I hope I don’t be like them when I have my own family. Insya’Allah. Aku taknak anak aku rasa ape yg aku rasa. Terseksa batin beb.

What else shall I update? Hmmmmm…. Oh ya, tomorrow, I need to go back to MOE for I don’t know what but I think should be the appointment formalities as what is described in their previous email. The person told me to bring along 5 things:

1) My bank book

2) A passport size photograph

3) My transcript

4) My diploma scroll

5) ?????

The last one forgot. ARGHHH!! I didn’t take down anything because I was outside. So I used my fried brain to memorize what was told to me. I couldn’t even remember which block but I heard 8^th floor. I only remember her saying exchange your I C for the visitor pass and go to the 8^th floor. Use the MOE phone to call me so that I know you have reached. Please come down before 3pm because we have a whole group coming down tomorrow. That’s all! Haha! So wish me luck la if I got so blur and lost my way.

Ok dah! Aku tak tau ape aku merepek kat dalam post ni. Kalau tak fhm tu faham2 kan je la yer.